Husband:have you taken your temperature lately? Has your fever gone down?
Me (hopped up on cold meds):funny you should ask that. I just did and it told me it was a 36.7. I don't think I'm dead? Wouldn't I feel better if I was dead? I mean I probably wouldn't have this pressing urge to pee and no energy to get up if I died from this cold.
Husband:is the thermometer set to Celsius instead of Fahrenheit?
Me:we live in America! Why would the thermome- oh shit. How did that happen?
Me:...yes it was in Celsius. That makes a lot more sense. So great news! I'm not dead!
It turns green (his favorite color) when it is time to get up. We’re not exactly sure why, but he does not get out of bed unless this light turns on or we give him permission. It’s gotten to the point where we don’t even need to use the light anymore.
PS. All credit for our well regulated bed time routines goes to my wife. If I was in charge we’d be up watching funny YouTube videos and drinking Mt Dew all night.
My grandfather just taught my 6.5 month old son how to clap (with my help). He does it all the time now when he is happy! It’s adorable when he sees my husband and then does it! He claps when he sees his bottle. He claps when we tell him “Good Job!” for something he did. Any time you should clap for happiness, he claps.
Recently (TMI Alert!), he has trouble pooping (the baby, not my husband!). He will go 4-6 days with out any major success. We have tried everything like staying away from constipating foods like bananas and rice; as well as giving him 4 oz of straight apple juice a day (as per the doc’s orders). But alas, he still has trouble.
After this last bout of 5 day effort, he was finally successful (yay! Happy momma! Not a happy nose!). He is laying there as I change him and get him into a clean diaper. I look up at him, and I see him clapping.
My son is applauding the fact that he finally pooped.
I guess if I had to poop for 5 days and couldn’t; and I finally did? I would be clapping too.
Let’s give little man a round of applause everyone!
I like this picture going around FB, even though the quote is sloganny and simplistic.
My firstborn is a boy, and was an only child for 6 years. During that time, I noticed some patterns in what “boys’ moms” tended to say and what “girls’ moms” tended to say, and one of them was: moms of…
Always speak the truth, your feelings and your mind but pay mind how you do it. Being honest is a great virtue but don’t think that it gives you the right to be mean. Being honest doesn’t equate being hurtful, negative, or nasty (even if those names you want to call the person may be true-to you). Being mean gets you no where and won’t make you happy.
There is an art in being honest yet nice, positive and tactful-master it. Watch people interact and discover who is successful in relationships and communication (like your awesome parents) and who is not. Then look for the why and how. How did they phrase their feelings about a bad situation? How did they react to what was said? How did they make progress? Never say anything in a relationship that is not going to help it grow stronger.
People fight; but what makes a couple grow and get closer together after a fight versus what pushes them apart? It’s all in how they express themselves and how it’s received. It’s better to say “I feel sad when you don’t confide in me” then to say “you never tell me anything!” (Why? Because when confronted with a “you!” statement, people get defensive & lash out. When confronted with how someone feels about their actions, they feel responsible and want to make amends! Making amends is progress towards resolution and growth.)
There are always three sides to the story-yours, theirs and the truth. Most wise parents would tell you to understand the truth, I’m telling you to understand all three sides (does this make me more wise? Who knows..). Put yourself in the other person’s shoes to try and understand why they reacted the way they did. Then look at yourself and see what you contributed-how you said things vs. how you meant them. Sometimes what we mean and how we come off are two different things. Look at yourself some more. How did you interpret what the person said? Did you really understand their meaning? Look at the big picture to see other factors that may be going on. Never assume anything. Seeing the big picture will make you empathetic and help you to communicate better. It takes practice.
It’s also important to remember that, unfortunately, this is not a level playing field. There are those out there who may be “adults” but act like children (& vice versa). When you have tried to express your feelings in a positive and healthy way and the other person is overly offended and lashes out-DON’T ENGAGE. Either walk away or simply state “we can talk about this later when we have both calmed down.” If you engage, you will only feed the crazy fire and make yourself even more angry. It’s always better to be the bigger person (no matter how much it sucks). You’ll have the satisfaction of being the sane adult-and that’s always preferable.
Try not to get into close relationships with these kinds of people. Unfortunately they are everywhere and you do know how to deal with them, but you do not need to accept this kind of behavior in your personal life. Make sure the one you marry & the friends you keep are as healthy and effective communicators as you are. If not, they will just cause heartache, drama, stress and sadness in your life. So try to keep them out and hold out for high standards of adult behavior (fyi- “adult” does not mean stiff and serious! Adults can be fun and still be responsible, respectful and mature! Find people who are a good mix of fun and responsible, mature and relaxed, emotional and stable).
Lastly, always treat those who do a service for you (cashiers, waitresses, hairdressers, etc) with open communication, kindness, professionalism, and generosity. If they do not do the same for you, walk away and find someone new. Do not waste your money on anyone who will treat you poorly or not live up to the service they claim to provide. You don’t need to pay for subpar service or for someone to treat you like crap.
The bottom line is have high standards and expectations for adults to act and communicate like adults. And for those who can’t, don’t encourage bad behavior; lead as an example of what should be. That’s more satisfying than any name calling or argument could be.